Compliments for Girls or No Compliments for Girls?

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Compliments for Girls or No Compliments for Girls?

Compliments for girls only work in certain circumstances: 1) if she is already attracted to you, 2) if the compliment is very subtle and unexpected, 3) if the compliment is backhanded 4) if you’re already in a relationship with her and 5) if she’s feeling extremely vulnerable.

If she is already attracted to you

The effectiveness of a compliment is largely dependent on if she is or is not attracted to you. If she is not attracted to you, compliments can decrease your attractiveness. Assuming that the girl you are complimenting is either really hot or in high demand, giving her a compliment will categorize you as unoriginal, predictable, or creepy. Creepy? Yes, creepy. Because they have no other means or methods of attracting an attractive girl, creepy guys overly compliment in exchange for attention from girls that are already used to receiving compliments from the other unoriginal, predictable or creepy guys that she has in her life.

If she is attracted to you, compliments could increase your attractiveness. In this case, you can choose to compliment or not compliment at all depending on if you want her to be more or less attracted to you. Usually, if she likes you already, and if you want her to like you more, you can slip in a compliment here and there, but don’t overdo it or else the compliments are going to sound contrived and they will lose their effectiveness. If she likes you already, but if you do not want her to like you more, do not compliment her at all. Complimenting her will only mislead her to resentment which can not only get her on your bad side, but also the 20 other girls that she tells.

If the compliment is very subtle and unexpected

Subtle and unexpected compliments for girls work if you are usually known to not give out compliments and if you have known her for quite a while. The point is, if you do compliment her, you should do it sparingly and only after you are familiar with her and she is familiar with you. The compliment will come as a pleasant surprise for her. On the other hand, if you compliment too early on when you both are not familiar with each other with something along the lines of “You are so beautiful,” you run the risk of immediately decreasing your value to her because you just gave her what she wanted and what she expected. After she knows that you like her, the game no longer becomes fun for her. Make her work for the compliment.

If the compliment is back handed

Compliments for girls that you are not familiar with and that you have not established comfort with yet should only be backhanded. Backhanded compliments are fun, mysterious and maintain your position of attractiveness because she does not know whether or not you are hitting on her.

Here is the model you should follow with backhanded compliments:

Compliment…Backhand

For Example:

That’s a nice shirt (Compliment)…I think I saw another girl wearing the same shirt earlier tonight. (Backhand)

Your hair looks so healthy (Compliment)…Is it a wig? (Backhand)

Note: you should not use backhanded compliments if you are in a relationship with her already.

If you’re already in a relationship with her

If you’re already in a relationship with her, this is when you can and should truly compliment. This goes back to if she is already attracted to you. If you’re already in a relationship with her, then obviously she is already attracted to you. The truth is, women love compliments. They want you to compliment them. But does that mean you should always give them what they want, when they want it? No. The reason is women (and men) want what they can’t have. But if you already have her and she already has you, you can compliment when appropriate, but again, don’t overdo it.

If she’s feeling extremely vulnerable

Compliments for girls when they are vulnerable have their ups and downs. They are good because when you offer your emotional support, you can build more trust and comfort with her. They are bad because you could potentially put yourself in the “Nice Guy/Friend Zone,” which can be deadly for attraction. Compliment with caution.

What are your thoughts on compliments for girls? Do you struggle with complimenting girls? Do you think these tips on compliments for girls will be effective for you? Comments or suggestions are highly encouraged. Thanks!